Emotional Infidelity: It Can Cause Your World To Crash And Burn
Are you or your partner or spouse involved with someone outside the bounds of your relationship in a non-sexual yet intimate manner? If so, welcome to world of emotional infidelity. And, just as with regular infidelity, it is a world filled with the devastation of betrayal and deeply held anger. It is a world were you tread lightly and have to keep your head up if want your relationship to survive.
What is emotional infidelity? Simply put, it is when one portion of committed relationship, married or otherwise, becomes emotionally entangled with someone else. Sex is not yet a part of equation, although it probably not far behind. This ‘other’ relationship then creates a huge disconnect between the partnered couple. And, the pain of isolation soon follows.
The situation is instantly dangerous because the involved partner does not really feel they have done any wrong. That doesn’t come until later when events catch up to them. But, right now, what’s so wrong about having a relationship with someone of the opposite sex? There isn’t anything sexual going on, so what can be wrong? But, make no mistake, these types of situations invariably lead to trouble of one kind or another.
If you believe your partner may be involved in an emotional infidelity, be on the lookout for how they spend their time. Do they spend a lot of time away from you, time you used to share? Do they guard their cell phone and time on the computer? Are they emotionally unavailable? Are they unresponsive when you ask about some personal details of their lives? Do they spend free time away from you?
Perhaps you are the one involved in the emotional affair. Or, you think you are. But, how do you know? Do you find yourself planning times the two of can get together to talk, either through email, IM, phone or in person? Are you sharing intimate details that were once formerly shared with your significant other? Does your spouse know anything about these meetings? Do you feel a sexual spark in their presence? If so, you may well be involved in an emotional affair.
There are things that can be done to curb the affair. Stay away from social situations that you view as a danger to your current relationship. Stay away from communicating anything you wouldn’t be willing to have your partner see or hear. Avoid making special time for anyone put your intimate partner and family. Invite your spouse to be a part of your relationship with the new involvement.
If you are concerned that you may have inadvertently wandered into an emotional infidelity, and would like to stop it dead in its tracks, I would strongly advise you take definitive steps to bring everything to a screeching halt before it’s all too late. And, if you asking these questions, it is not yet too late to take action before somewhere gets hurt. Because that someone could be you.
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